Invent a super-secret handshake.  Take turns adding a step and repeat it until you both have it down.  Now change a step and see how your child responds.  Go back and forth between the old and new way.

Brainy Background powered by Mind in the Making: Creating and learning a super-secret handshake helps your child remember what is needed to achieve a goal.  This is a big step in learning self-control.

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