Empathy is the ability to imagine how someone else is feeling in a certain situation and respond with care.
Being able to empathize with another person means that your child:
- Understands that other people may have thoughts and feelings different from their own.
- Recognizes common feelings like happy, sad, angry, scared, etc.
- Can watch a situation—like seeing a child saying goodbye to their mommy—and relate to how another person might feel.
- Can respond with appropriate behaviors without being asked to. For example, giving a hug to comfort someone.
What does a child need to develop empathy?
- A secure and loving relationship with their primary caregiver(s)—this could mean mom, dad, or someone else close to them.
- Ability to consider how someone else feels (begins at 6 months)
- A beginning realization that other people’s thoughts and feelings can differ from their own (begins 18–24 months)
- Ability to know him or herself in a mirror or picture (begins 18–24 months).
How do I nurture empathy in my child?
- Empathize with your child
- Talk about feelings (good and bad)
- Suggest ways your child can show empathy (“He seems scared because he’s all alone, why don’t you go stand next to him?”)
- Read stories about feelings
- I Am Happy: A Touch and Feel Book of Feelings by Steve Light
- My Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss
- The Feelings Book by Todd Parr
- When your child is upset, frustrated, sad, or experiencing any difficult emotion, let them know the emotion is okay and don’t rush to immediately fix it.
- Use pretend play to experience how others feel
- Help your child focus on how other people are feeling (for example, ask “Why do you think she’s smiling?”)
- Help your child understand how their actions affect others
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